Tips: How to stay ALERT if you're the lazy type to read and update your daily facts?

People normally dozed off a bit when it goes to updating their info or facts of the day. Not everyone is great to stay alert about everything. Sometimes they know, sometimes they didn't. But people surely not enjoy to ask questions. However, it feels awkward to stand without knowing the news, especially if you're reluctant to read. So, for those sloppy readers who wants to stay update among your circle but reading is not your cup, try this:

• Read the headline of the news. Even you didn't get the whole crap of the story, at least you know a bit like "Three were killed in accident". Now you understand that three people had died in accident, right?

• Use the power of listening when you buy groceries at the mall, having a pedestrian walk, window shopping or whenever you're at the outside. You don't have to ask people to tell you the story, they will indirectly feed you the news. All you have to do is listen.

• Train yourself to become ventriloquist. Use the talent of asking without moving your lips when you got left behind in your group circle.

• Follow the flow. Take a piece of the story from everyone. Now, you have a different kind of story-version and thumb's up to get into the conversation.

• Don't laughed whenever you want. That will makes you look so damn-awkward in front of others. Observe the facial expression quietly.

• Wide your eyes. There are so many information around you and to help you a bit in updating your knowledge of the day.

• Hang around with talkative buddies. They will give you a lot of stories...a lot, more than you can imagine~

• Make a good guess while in conversation. Good guess will help you to catch up the subject better and quickly.

• Or, try to make a wrong guess. Your friends will correct you and give you the right facts. Then, they might add up more stories and Yahtzee!-- now you got the other news without subscribing the channel.

• If you like, try to attend a group discussion. Not only you can get info about your work, you might get more individual stories from strong-will gossipers, creative chatters, annoying 'corrector' or trustworthy news feeder.

• Sometimes, people's argument will enrich your knowledge. So, try to stay up and watch.

p/s: for those sloppy readers who read this, congratulations~ now, you're no longer sloppy. You read this, and you alert =)

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Leaders who tend to abuse: Why?

Leaders are the selected people to lead a group or association. They were the chosen one to plan, to decide and to stand up to all difficulties. However, back to the old times, there were so many barbaric leaders who enjoyed the bloody flesh, torturing, abusing and laughing to all kind of evil acts, treating those works as their hobby or the finest artwork. However, most of them (those sickening and mental leaders) were experienced the spiteful, bored, plain or depressing childhood. The painful memories while growing up had shaping their mind and influencing their decision making, to become the leaders who tend to abuse. Why? Actually, every people who grew up with too much of painful environment will be hurt so much that they couldn't accept their past, become so aggressive to any disagreement, always thinking of revenge, killing themselves or the worst of all, to attempt a murder. 

This is the list of example of leaders who experienced "the untold childhood".

Adolf Hitler (Nazi)

Hitler had a rough childhood who dreamed to become a painter. He had a strong will father who opposed his dream to become an artist. The death of his younger brother, Edmund deeply affected his mind and emotion.  Later, he was rejected by the Academy of Fine Arts Vienna because of his unfitness for painting or the truth was, he can't draw the face of human clearly and most of his painting had a blurring human face. He even got rejected in architecture study. After the second rejection, Hitler become so poor and lived at the homeless shelter. He was an antisemitism (which caused the gruesome legacy of the 'Holocaust') because of overrun immigrants of eastern Jew might seize his chance for foods and job, knew that his father's forefather is Jew and facing a hard time to accept his dream had blown away. That was how he began to dream to involved in a war and become a hero, a small piece of desire being 'someone important' and he was too hungered for world-attention.

Joseph Stalin (Stalinism)

Stalin had received some several cases of minor low self-esteem such as, having a permanent scar because of smallpox that happened when he was a kid, permanent left-arm damage in two horses carriage accident when he was twelve and unfit feeling with the imperialist and religious order, which caused him to rebel the scholarship from Georgian Orthodox seminary. He even got expelled, missing his final exam and the seminary record suggest that he was unable to pay his tuition fees (and few things that against the regulation). He had a fragile mind which caused him easily been influenced by Vladimir Lenin writings, joined the association and got mark by Tsar secret police. After involved in police cases, he began to work wild by doing extortion, ransom kidnapping, raising money from bank robberies, spreading propaganda and become the full time revolutionary. Then, the calling for the World War I took his interest to become an army but failed because of his left-arm damage, which make him indirectly feel offense. Later, he determined to be part of political world, as the best way to get involved in war and gained the attention.

Genghis Khan (Mongol Empire)

Genghis was born as Temujin, and his early life was difficult. He was sent to his future wife (the other tribe) at the age of nine and lived separately from his family. He had to bear a responsible in a very young age, and waiting to get an official marriage at the age of 12. Later, he got news about his father's death, poisoned by their old enemy of Tatars, and he can't accept the losing at first. Then, he returned to claim his father position but got rejected, which caused him the second frustration after losing his father. After his father's death, they faced a rough life without a protection. He even killed his half brother because of the hunting spoil,  scrambled for foods to live which caused him captured and held prisoner by his father former allies. He was being enslaved for several moment, before he got a help by a sympathetic guard and run away. Genghis grew up in a tough political stage, weather climate that caused the real starvation, received the interference forces by enemies and crime in his own land. Those pressures had put him to get into war with other land, looking for sources to live and kill for huge necessities..

Pol Pot (Khmer Rouge)

Pot, or Saloth Sar was born in a small fishing village and his father was a rice farmer, considered to be moderately wealthy at that time. He had a fair skin complexion, he had a good family, his cousin was part of Royal Ballet, his sister was a concubine for King Monivong and he gained a good scholarship which brought him to study at the foreign country, France. However, there were slightly parts in his life that makes him tried too much to change it. First, his fair complexion might be the problem, he might be dislike it. Second, his sister was concubine for a king, maybe he didn't like to accept that fact. Third, he received a good scholarship but the study didn't went so well. His academic record was so poor, he failed in exams, got rejected and sent back to Cambodia. While studying, he got attracted by anti-colonialism idea, revolution party and guerrilla stuff which he thought that might be the stage for him to shine, being great and doing better than studying radio electronics. Later, he got addicted about hating Westerners, religious groups and intellectual people who against his ideas.

Ivan IV- The Terrible (Tsar of All the Russias)

Ivan was born in a great environment. He was Grand Prince of Moscow, born with intelligent brain, an able diplomat, a patron of trade and arts, the founder of Russia's first Print Yard, changing his country to become a multiethnic, medieval state to empire and had a long reign. However, he had a very complex personality; he killed his groomer and his son, paranoiac suspiciousness, and cruel persecution of the nobility. He had a serious business by beat his daughter in law for wearing immodest clothing and makes her miscarriage and even fought with his son about the miscarriage things which killed his son, Ivan Ivanovich, the chosen heir. However, back to his childhood, he was left by his father who died from a boil and inflammation on his leg. Request by his father as to make him the Grand Prince, his mother acted as a regent but got assassinated by poison. He and his brother, Yuri had been neglected and abandoned by his father and mother's families in a very young age which leads him to lived and grew up in suspicious, worrying, terrifying with other people, and revenge. His spiteful manner become worse when his first wife, Anastasia Romanovna got poisoned which deeply affected him and betrayed by his advisor which caused the devastation of Russia region (he got more suspicious and paranoid about trusting people).

Mao Tse-Tung/Mao Zedong (Communist Party)

Mao had a difficult life when he was a young boy. He had a stern disciplinary father which was largely irreligious, often got beaten by his father, and lived in poverty. He was believe in Buddha at first but abandoned his faith in his mid teenage years. He was forced to learn Confucius moral ideologies by his father and even tried to run but always found by his father. At the age of 13, he was forced to married a girl who four years older than him, Luo Yixiu to unite their land owning families, which against his will and he refused to accept her as his wife. He learned about political ideologies secretly, influenced a lot by the local and foreign books about remodeling the nation and got inspired. Later, he convinced his father to allow him to attend middle school at Changsha. However, his father opposed his intellectual pursuits, and cut off his expenses which makes him move away and leave his family. Most of his life was controlled and monitored by his father, and most of his life was been decided by his father's decision, that leads him to rebel, to seek his passion and dreams, and at the same time his father's stern disciplinary attitude becomes part of his behaviour too.

Vlad Dracul 'Dracula' the Impaler/Vlad Tepes (Prince of Wallachia)

Vlad Dracula, the notorious blood-thirsty ruthless and deranged prince from Hungary was born in a very religious Christianity who believed in God and his father was a member of the Order of the Dragon who protect Christianity in eastern Europe. He hated the Ottoman Empire very much because of the Ottoman conquest at Balkans. He was grew up to hate Islam, Ottoman and inspired by his father's struggle to secure the Christianity and also the Order of the Dragon. He had lived and educated well by his father until his life began to change when his father being ascended the throne of Wallachia and ousted by rival faction at Hungary. His father was secured by Ottoman support (he hates Ottoman, anyways), enraged silently when his father had to pay jizya (non-Muslim taxes to Sultan), sent by his father to Ottoman court as the hostages of the loyalty, his brother, Radu converted to Islam and joining Mehmed II. Later on, Radu being honoured by Ottoman Turks and Mehmed II become the Sultan. Vlad becomes too much ill in his mind when he knew that his father had betrayed the Oath of the Dragon, at the same time he had betrayed their religion, distrusting the Hungarians, envious by his brother's achievement (Radu becomes his father's preference) and hates to lived in Ottoman circle and the Islam community, which leads him to become wild, spiteful and completely insane.

Hirohito the Emperor Showa (Taisho Monarch/Showa Era)

Hirohito was a Japanese Prince for Taisho Monarch and lived in a very pleasant life. He had a good education, great family status, wealth and comfort. Grow up in such a plain and protocol life brought him a lot of responsibility and lived to expect the expectation. The responsibility and the expectation as the prince becomes higher when his father being affected by mental illness. Under his regency, there were several events occurred; receiving the agreement to terminate the Anglo-Japanese Alliance, devastated by the Great Kanto earthquakes, someone tried to assassinate him but failed and received the reign in financial crisis background. Feel pressure by those forces, he began to dreamed about the modern country of Japan, the great Asian country in Asia, and inspired by the other big countries resourcefulness in technology, weaponry and financial. With those ambitions and pressures surrounded him, he agreed the invasion of China, and involvement in World War II.

Ref: Wikipedia, Discovery, Google Images

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Hey, Single...watch your Double~

Being single is one of my kind for a very long time, living in my single-dom world and enjoying stuffs like single people would do; stay a lot at home, eat alone, hang out with friends and families, no worries about phone calls or something like that and the best part is, freedom. For so many years, I've been surrounded by doubles...I mean, my friends in relationship, and I've been watching them, the way they behave and talk, absolutely. And for all these years, I had enjoyed on the audience's seat, with my imaginary pop corn and watch this double-ship show quietly.

13 year-old was the earliest involvement in double-ship among my friends and some of them got pretty serious when they're in 17-19, whereas I was still playing legos or poker,  wipe my mucous with my shirt and stuffing foods inside my mouth like a bulldozer (I had problems to act like a decent girl in my age). I think that's my psychological disease of seeking my childhood who left me in the dark (don't mention it). No offense, but, being double is not so easy. They called it 'young age is somehow, a stupid stage to learn the truth being double'. Even I have so-so and so little facts about double-ship things but as far as I can remember, there's something that they often did during my observation such as:

1. Couples often made calls and texting over the night, to say how much they love each other but to be honest, they were worried about bills or topup they should pay to sustain the relationship.
2. Couples often invite their double for brunch, dinner and shopping but they can't stop thinking whether this investment for double-ship is worthy or not.
3. Couples often say that 'long distance double-ship' is testing their patience and love, they often fight like hell over the phone call (jealousy activated).
4. Couples often say that 'short distance double-ship' is good to sustain their heart better, but they had problems to trust each other.
5. Couples often say that 'being double is happy' but they often shed tears more than smiling.
6. Couples often tell everyone they feel grateful being in double-ship, but seriously, they can't stop grumbling at the back, even they loved each other but still...grumbling.
7. Couples often did something similar but they often feel like there's a small battle between them.
8. Couples often go for movies but one side often feels terrible with the story line, but couldn't say a word because they loved each other (true story)
9. Couples often refuse to listen somebody's advice because they always thought they're right but when something happens, they couldn't admit the truth and swallowed their pride in pain.
10. Couples always missing each other but when they meet up, they often questioning more than nice chatting.
11. Couples often say 'YES' but deep in their heart, there's 'NO' that couldn't come out (just buried between those layered of sugar-coated words).
12. Couples often say that 'long double-ship' helps them to know each other better and greater, but they often complaint about each weaknesses they've learned in each passing days.
13. Couples often say that 'short double-ship' helps them to learn to understand each other, but they often surprised what is waiting upon them (so, keep surprise~)
14. Couples often give advises to those who single, but the truth is-- all advises are for them, to remind themselves.
15. Couples often dreaming about marriage (serious couple only) but money issues are much bigger than missing their love one.
16. Couples like to brag about their double-ship but often silence like a dead wood when they've broke up.
17. Couples love sharing everything but not all couples are ready or willing to share their biggest secret.
18. Couples always praised their love one but the truth is, after a certain years they will start comparing their double-ship to the other double-ship (which ship is better?)
19. Couples like to share their story with others but they couldn't bear to hear anything in the past when they broke up.
20. Couples knew that being double-ship is all about loyalty but some of it still joining 'the hunting-trip'. To put it simple, 'you got cheated'.
21. Couples always say that marriage is the victory of their love but they often slipped the victory after they got the legal paper.
22. Couples often changed even they can't admit they're already changed.
23. Couples willing to do everything but some of them asking for some return (y u no the news of baby on the street is so cranky these days~)
24. Couples often vowed for their love, but some of it might be blown away in a matter of time (I don't know about this but somehow, it happens a lot---my friend experienced this)
25. At this point, those couples (who read this) will reminisce the old ships who left by when they were young, so I will stop the list at here...et cetera, et cetera~

As a single person, sitting at the corner of love-hate things that happened out of my control, sweet and sour of faces I saw every time I took a slightly glance, and for whispers and shouts I have to bear as an audience of love battlefield. For those passing years I had submerged into these courses, between all doubles I couldn't speak or advice, nor listen to what I want to say, being double means "double activated" and the conversation was often slides from the subject. So yes, I did put them away (not so far, but away from my single business) because being single like mine is a "vertigo"; hating handcuffs, freedom surfing, jolly flapping, undisturbed decision or D.I.Y jumping jack to have something with my own skins and fingers (if you know what I mean).

All in all, watching doubles in double-ship is not something so bad, I've learned something (I do valued the hardworking people who contributed my knowledge), the good things and mistakes that should not be done by single-ship. Well, Single..watch your Double out there.  That's the fundamental of understanding the body language and mind-working.

"For single, being single is a lesson of life...for double, being double is a person of life"

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Apa Yang Anda Mimpi Semalam?

"Sometimes, dreams alter the course of an entire life" [Judith Duerk]

Mimpi merupakan siri kejadian dan gambaran yang bermain di dalam minda ketika kita tidur lena, ataupun dalam keadaan separuh sedar. Kisah yang berlaku dalam mimpi biasanya dipengaruhi oleh sesuatu yang berlaku dalam kehidupan kita seharian, walaupun kadang-kala mimpi tersebut tidak masuk akal atau tidak ada kaitan terus dengan diri kita. Walau bagaimanapun, setiap mimpi membawa makna tersendiri- sama ada ia berguna atau tidak terpulang kepada si pemimpi. Terdapat beberapa jenis mimpi yang mungkin pernah terjadi pada diri kita, seperti;

• Mimpi bertemu dengan seseorang yang sudah meninggal, sama ada anda kenal mahupun tidak (dreams of apparations)
• Mimpi terdengar bunyi yang menarik perhatian anda yang membawa mesej tersembunyi (clairaudient dreams)
• Mimpi yang berkaitan dengan rasa simpati atau perasaan yang terjadi dalam mimpi (emphatic dreams)
• Mimpi yang terjadi seiring dengan masa yang sebenar. Sebagai contoh, anda bermimpi ditolak ke dalam gaung tetapi rupa-rupanya anda terjatuh dari katil (clairvoyant dreams)
• Mimpi yang menghubungkan anda dengan sesuatu atau dengan seseorang, kadang-kadang terjadi jika anda atau pihak berkaitan berada dalam bahaya (telepathic dreams)

Terdapat segelintir manusia yang diberi kebolehan istimewa menerusi mimpi, ada juga mimpi yang membawa manusia kepada kematian, atau perubahan diri. Tetapi, terdapat beberapa jenis mimpi yang kurang jelas tapi kita terasa yakin bahawa mimpi tersebut berkaitan dengan kehidupan kita yang sebenar. Biasanya, mimpi seperti ini terjadi disebabkan emosi semasa dan tahap psikologi kita terhadap kehidupan yang kita lalui. Menurut teori Freud, mimpi seperti ini merupakan satu penyamaran, yang menjelaskan kepada si pemimpi berkenaan dengan emosi dan pemikiran sebenar yang tidak dapat diluahkan dalam kehidupan sebenar. Carl Jung, psikiatrik dari Swiss juga menjelaskan bahawa fungsi mimpi secara umumnya ialah untuk menyimpan semula keseimbangan psikologi kita. Oleh itu, tidak semua mimpi yang berlaku itu memberi alamat, khabar berita, atau karut semata-mata. Mimpi juga sebenarnya menunjukkan tahap turun-naik emosi kita dalam menghadapi kehidupan seharian.

Apa yang Anda Mimpi Semalam?

Tidak semua mimpi yang kita alami dapat diceritakan dengan jelas sebaik saja kita sedar dari tidur. Biasanya, mimpi tersebut terus kabur dari minda apabila badan kita menerima isyarat dari otak untuk bangkit. Namun, setiap cebisan mimpi tersebut membawa maksud, yakni berkaitan dengan diri kita sendiri (sifat, kelakuan emosi dan tahap psikologi secara tidak sedar atau bersifat rawak). Antara cebisan mimpi yang mungkin pernah berlaku pada diri anda ialah:

Mimpi sedang berlari di atas jalan raya, padang, taman, duduk mengadap laut, melihat langit atau berlari di kawasan luas.

Anda sebenarnya sedang mencari sesuatu tetapi belum menemui apa yang anda mahukan untuk diri anda. Mimpi seperti ini sebenarnya menunjukkan keadaan emosi anda yang menginginkan sesuatu tetapi belum tercapai.

Mimpi berjalan di kawasan pergunungan, bukit atau kawasan yang tinggi.

Ia memberi maksud bahawa anda sedang berusaha mencapai sesuatu (dalam kehidupan yang sebenar)

Mimpi disisihkan oleh kenalan dan ahli keluarga

Mimpi ini berkaitan dengan masalah psikologi, anda tidak dapat meluahkan rasa kecewa yang anda lalui dalam kehidupan seharian maka ia terjadi di dalam mimpi dalam bentuk penyisihan atau pengabaian oleh golongan yang sangat mengenali anda.

Mimpi berkaitan dengan makanan atau sesuatu yang anda idamkan.

Mungkin anda benar-benar menginginkan sesuatu tetapi hajat masih belum tercapai atau disebabkan masalah kewangan.

Mimpi berkawan atau berkenalan dengan sekumpulan manusia yang serasi dengan diri anda.

Ia membawa maksud sama ada anda kesepian akibat selalu bersendirian, tertekan dengan kelompok manusia yang selalu menghimpit anda dengan masalah ataupun gagal menemui kelompok seperti yang anda inginkan maka ia menjelma di dalam mimpi, kesan dari tahap psikologi anda sendiri.

Mimpi terjatuh, tersungkur atau rebah.

Mimpi seperti ini menunjukkan anda sedang kecewa akan sesuatu yang terjadi dalam hidup anda, maka ia terjadi juga dalam mimpi sebagai simbol bahawa anda sedang berada di atas titik merosot dalam hidup.

Mimpi sedang bergembira tetapi tidak tahu sebab apa.

Mimpi seperti ini menunjukkan tahap kualiti hidup yang anda lalui setiap hari, kepuasan dalam melakukan sesuatu, memiliki sesuatu dan menikmati hidup seperti yang anda mahukan. Perasaan dan emosi itu akhirnya terbawa-bawa dalam mimpi, dan menjadikan anda gembira walaupun anda tidak ingat akan mimpi tersebut.

Mimpi menangis tetapi tidak tahu sebab apa.

Sama seperti di atas, ia berkaitan dengan kualiiti hidup anda. Jika kehidupan yang anda lalui tidak seperti apa yang anda rancangkan, tidak mustahil untuk anda menangis di dalam mimpi dan dalam masa yang sama, anda teresak-esak ketika sedang tidur.

Mimpi dikejar oleh sesuatu

Anda sedang mengalami masalah (bergantung pada situasi yang anda alami dalam kehidupan sebenar) yang membuatkan anda rasa seperti dikejar dan dibayangi oleh sesuatu yang ingin anda elak.

Mimpi insan yang anda sayang pergi meninggalkan anda

Mimpi seperti ini menunjukkan tahap kasih sayang anda terhadap insan tersebut begitu tinggi sehingga anda memilih untuk bermimpi akan kejadian tersebut kerana anda tahu, ia cuma mimpi. Anda tidak mempunyai keberanian untuk melihat kejadian itu terjadi dalam kehidupan sebenar. Ia juga mungkin berkaitan dengan kehidupan sebenar (insan yang anda sayang sedang sakit atau mahu mengembara), dan membuatkan anda bimbang sehingga termimpi-mimpi.

Mimpi kembali ke masa silam

Mimpi seperti ini bersifat nostalgia. Ada dua kemungkinan untuk mengalami mimpi seperti ini, sama ada anda rindu atau anda mempunyai ketakutan pada masa silam anda. Jika ada kemungkinan yang ketiga, ia mungkin dipengaruhi oleh apa yang anda lihat dan dengar sebelum anda tidur.

Mimpi melakukan sesuatu yang tidak pernah anda lakukan.

Mimpi ini menunjukkan kehendak anda yang bersifat pelbagai dan keinginan untuk mencuba, tetapi belum ada keyakinan.

Sebenarnya, ada banyak lagi jenis mimpi yang bersangkut paut dengan emosi dan pemikiran anda dalam bentuk provokatif dan pemujukan. Setiap cebisan mimpi yang anda alami juga merupakan pendedahan kepada pemikiran dan pengalaman yang pernah anda lalui ketika anda sedar (awake). Kesimpulannya, cebisan mimpi ini menunjukkan tahap kesihatan fizikal dan mental anda. Cebisan mimpi seperti ini mungkin menjadi penggerak dalam perubahan hidup anda.

Ref: The Ultimate Illustrated Guide to DSS (2007: Hermes House)

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