Mentafsir lukisan kanak-kanak

Every child is an artist. Itulah kata-kata Pablo Picasso. Tapi, Picasso menyambung ayat tersebut dengan kata-kata, "...the problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up." Kata orang, melukis ni minat. Itulah minat aku, walaupun mak marah sebab conteng dinding. Tapi bagi sesiapa yang ada anak yang suka melukis, korang boleh paham di sebalik misteri lukisan anak-anak korang. Itu pun kalau korang bagi anak-anak korang pegang pensel warna, pensel 2B, marker or magic pen.

Menurut Carl Jung, pakar psikologi, seni lukis sebenarnya sejenis terapi. Membiarkan kanak-kanak mengembangkan imaginasi dalam setiap pemerhatian diorang adalah komunikasi non verbal- menggambarkan reaksi wajah, pergerakan tubuh, postur dan gambaran bahasa badan dalam lukisan. Setiap lukisan menunjukkan perilaku, sikap, personaliti dan bentuk pemikiran kanak-kanak. Jadi, luangkan masa individu untuk anak korang. Diulang...masa individu. Pada masa individu itulah korang akan nampak di sebalik pemikiran seorang kanak-kanak. Kalau korang gabungkan anak korang, kongsi pensel warna, apa yang korang nampak cuma peperangan. Well, kids~

Sesungguhnya bukan senang nak paham lukisan budak. Macam cakaran. Tapi untuk memahami misteri lukisan kanak-kanak, korang mestilah:

1. Faham sebab apa lukisan itu dihasilkan.Adakah ia mengandungi benda baik atau pelik? Jika ada perkara pelik, kanak-kanak itu sedang mengalami masalah.
2. Apa yang korang rasa di sebalik lukisan itu? Adakah ia memberi makna gembira atau marah? Jika marah, cari punca kemarahan.
3. Perhatikan penggunaan warna lukisan. Jika ia kelihatan lembut dan kemas, emosi kanak-kanak dalam keadaan yang baik. Jika ia kelihatan serabut dan keras, emosi kanak-kanak tidak baik.
4. Kira jumlah penggunaan warna. Jika lebih dari 5 warna, perkembangan emosi kanak-kanak itu stabil. Jika kanak-kanak melebihi 3-4 tahun menggunakan warna yang sedikit, kanak-kanak mengalami masalah emosi. Mungkin fizikal.
5. Kenalpasti alat lukisan yang digunakan oleh kanak-kanak. Jika kanak-kanak lebih menggemari pensel biasa berbanding pensel warna, berkemungkinan kanak-kanak itu kurang menyerlah dan kurang positif (rendah diri).
6. Kenalpasti subjek lukisan kanak-kanak. Jika lukisan dipenuhi subjek sampingan, kanak-kanak cuba menarik perhatian. Kanak-kanak yang impulsif (gemar menurut kata hati) biasanya tidak melengkapkan lukisan mereka, lukisan kelihatan terlalu kasual (berhati-hati) dan sukar untuk dikawal.

Dan sekarang, jom kenal pasti sedikit lukisan anak buah aku (sebab aku tak ada anak).

Lukisan ni dilukis oleh my niece, dengan bantuan komunikasi tanpa tunjuk ajar. Katanya, ini orang. Ada kepala tapi tak ada badan. Penggunaan warna hitam ni biasanya menggambarkan pemberontakan tapi disebabkan aku yang mintak dia guna warna hitam ni, so, pengaruh warna tak ada kaitan. Lukisan ni lebih kepada sifat kreativiti. Aku suka lukisan ini sebab ia menampakkan sifat anak-anak yang comel.

Lukisan ni dibuat dengan bantuan tunjuk ajar. Katanya dia nak belajar melukis, jadi aku ajarkan. Pemilihan warna ni dibuat oleh dia sendiri, aku tak pilih. Penggunaan warna merah ni biasanya membawa maksud kekuatan, unik, agresif, hiperaktif, esentrik, dan sifat teruja. Well, macam itulah maknanya. My niece memang agresif dan esentrik. Nampak lukisan bunga kaler oren kat sebelah kiri? Lukisan sebelah kiri ni biasanya berkaitan dengan perkara lepas dan juga ibu. Kebetulan dia nak aku snap gambar lukisan ni dan hantar kat ibu dia, which is my kakak. Korang boleh relate, kalau lukisan dilukis sebelah kanan, ia berkaitan dengan masa depan dan bapa.

Lukisan ni atas bantuan tunjuk ajar. Lukisan budak lelaki pertama yang dia lukis, memilih warna hijau. Penggunaan warna hijau membawa maksud kebebasan, keras kepala, pendesak, bertenang dan sifat berhati-hati. Memang, masa melukis buat pertama kalinya guna marker, my niece memang berhati-hati dan bertenang. Tapi selepas dia selesa guna marker, sifat kebebasan, keras kepala, dan pendesak mula muncul. Di bahagian bawah, matahari dilukis dengan warna coklat. Coklat membawa maksud lesu, malas, fizikal yang tidak selesa. Kebetulan masa tu, my niece duduk tak berapa nak diam. 

Lukisan bunga tulip dalam pasu ni dilukis dengan bantuan tunjuk ajar. Penggunaan warna biru dalam lukisan adalah warna kegemaran kanak-kanak selain merah, hijau dan kuning. Korang boleh nampak ada warna kuning di sebelah tulip. Katanya nak lukis tulip dan burung. Biru membawa maksud caring dan enjoy company. Itu maksudnya, my niece gembira masa duduk melukis dengan aku. Pengaruh warna kuning tu membawa maksud sifat riang dan bijak. Betul, my niece memang riang ria tahap hari Raya. Becok pun boleh tahan.

Lukisan teddy bear dengan penggunaan warna hitam, atas bantuan tunjuk ajar tapi warna ni my niece yang pilih. Pada masa tu, emosi my niece merosot. Dah mula bosan, merengek, membebel. Hitam membawa maksud dominan, dia cuba nak kuasai aku dengan mintak yang bukan-bukan. Tangan pun mula gatal-gatal usik barang aku. Tukar strategi, aku bagi kertas kosong dan suruh dia melukis apa je dia suka. At the end, dia lukis entah apa-apa entah. Tak apa, asalkan dia bertenang.

Subjek lukisan kanak-kanak biasanya bergantung pada usia dan persekitaran. Kanak-kanak ada gaya dan subjek kegemaran mereka tersendiri. Lukisan kanak-kanak biasanya lebih ke arah mood dan tahap psikologi . Jadi, ia mungkin sangat membantu untuk memahami dan menangani kelakuan kanak-kanak serta memantau perkembangan emosi kanak-kanak dengan lebih baik. Dalam erti kata lain, adakah anak anda membesar dengan  normal? Well, kids. Suka buat aku pening...

Sebelum tutup entri, sila kenalpasti struktur lukisan kanak-kanak melalui umur.

• 2-4 tahun: lukisan cakar ayam.
• 4 tahun: lukisan banyak garis.
• 5-6 tahun: lukisan deskriptif, lukisan konsep, kurang sempurna (belum jelas dari segi perbezaan jantina atau bentuk).
• 7-8 tahun: lukisan representatif, lukisan yang menggambarkan persekitaran sekeliling (serangga, haiwan, pokok dan sebagainya)
• 9-10 tahun: Lukisan mula jelas (kesempurnaan figura manusia dan sebagainya) dan kadang-kadang bersifat kritikal.

@themagi2014
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Addiction of Money

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"Money can buy everything and anything.."

That's the statement for everyone nowadays, although we knew that money can't buy anything, exactly. But the power of money is more than drug addiction, highly seductive and manipulate us in many shapes and terms. No one can resist the sweet smell of the precious paper.

Yes, I agreed that money helps us to achieve our dreams and how money makes us special. Generally, money helps to boost up confidence, psychology and self-esteem. With money, our desire could fulfilled with satisfaction, happiness and coziness. Money pays the debt, creates new life, the physical born and self belonging. Yes, I agreed we need money to lived up our future. We need money in everything; sheltering, food, education and even death itself.

Yes, I do understand how much money is important to us.

However, the goodness of money is a challenge. With a large sum of money, life is no more delightful. Addiction kills the joy. You know why?

1. Money controls you with a puppet string on your body
2. Money produces hatred and jealousy
3. Money haunts your mind of wisdom
4. Money destructs your judgement and self conscious
5. Money destroys your relationship and love
6. Money abuses your whole life
7. Money creates insecurities, makes you a coward and selfish
8. Money makes you dependable, losing freedom and feed more worrisome
9. Money manipulates you with greed and  superfluous desire
10. Money holds your manner; too proud, intolerant and unnatural
11. Money loses your patience, vulnerable in everything
12. Money leads your life into a wrong path, further and farther

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Basically, money addiction has a similar pattern of other addiction. As I mention earlier, money  addiction is similar with drugs- you're engaged with it, compulsive and anxieties. There's a change in brain activities, creating a chemistry toward others such as gambling, sex and eating disorder, which releases a body chemical called dopamine that similar with the high of drugs. It also similar with sex addiction that manipulate human's brain, abusing the body, weak judgement and lose mutual neediness as a normal human being.

The process of money addiction is somehow creates the whole addiction fields; as we know as in typical formula:

Sex+Power+Fame=Money

@themagi2013

Grown up and challenges

To live as a grown up person is very difficult, especially in this century. Time flies really fast, life becomes extremely in speed and everything is highly in demand. You lived to expect the expectation. And also, a lot of people lived in asylum because of this. To be honest, I feel tired to lived like this. But there's no other way, I have to move on. There's no road to make a turn and became a child for once again.

In order to fit in this kind of society, you have to rush. You have to breakFAST, QUICK lunch and dinner, but mostly people like supper because they have to finish this and that during dinner time. I thought, can you just sit there and watch me properly without running here and there? Hey, I know, money is important these days. Everything needs money. I know that more than anyone because I have a short of money right now but it doesn't mean that people just went out without looking what's left behind?

These days, without challenges, you have no guts. That's a glory word from sages. But with challenges, you are difficult. You did something, but nothing's come out right, you joined a business but then it doesn't help you, you seek a job but they refused to hire you, you tried everything to reach your goal but at the end, you're just a loser. The great people used to say good things about something and something, but that's because they're already succeeded. Try to think if they're in continuous failure and then died? I don't think those wisdom would spread to us, right? But at least, for those who still fighting their problems, I guess they have guts, a big one.

Everyone, when they were little would expect a good life is ahead. They talked about a dream job, a dream house, a dream of dream in dream of dream. Dream is like drinking water, if you don't drink water for a week, you'll die. From every kind of dream, there's a hope and effort come together. Those were positives. It tranquilized your nerves and pulses. But there is no way for us to get everything easy. Easy comes with challenges, you have to fight them first or just die. You see? Life is a battle. We did it since we're so little, as a sperm. 

I often feel tired these days. Maybe what I did is not turning out very good. And people just saw me as I am nothing. If only I can screamed in their ears and said, "just mind your own business..!", it would be sweet. Again, people around you is also a challenge. Not everyone sincerely understand your problem because they saw you as one of their problem too. They're too busy living and too busy dying and too busy earning and too busy in everything. Why would you think they might pay some attention to listen to your problem. Actually, you are the one who listen to your own problem. So, I recommended you, build a wall in your ear. Just let them talk whatever they want because they never saw you crying and you never saw them crying.

At the end, everyone lived in their problems. How to resolve the problem?

That's the challenge.

#tmg2013

Tips: Reduce Stress in Simple Ways

Stress. Everybody got stress in every Morning, during afternoon, before payday, after discount month or while driving. Even monkeys can get stress when you hide your bananas from them. People often said that, "if you got stress with et cetera, you should do something et cetera" such as travelling, spa treatment, domestic holidays, cinema time, recreation mode, camping, shopping or hang out with friends. But sometimes, great things are expensive and not everyone could bear the huge cost in order to reduce a small stress. So, this is it. How to reduce stress in simple ways?

1. Eat sweet things. It's easy. You can buy lollipop, cotton candy, ice-cream, cakes or chocolates. Sweet things can help you to feel nice and happy. Besides, it doesn't cost you much to buy candies, right? Really, sweet things can make you feel better. But, please remember Mr. Diabetes =)

2. Gamble. Do it with your friends or partners or family members. The simple rule for this reduce-stress-gamble is by using 10 cent only for each bet. If there are 10 bets and you won 6 of them so 60 cent will be yours. You know what's the reason for this cheap bet? It won't lose you much. Besides, it is just a therapy game to make you happy again- happy for each 10 cent you get from others.

3. Run and scream. Run helps you to work out, scream helps you to pour out your emotion. Get a good spot to run and scream. Please do not scream inside your room, or someone's room or inside crowd people. They might think you're dangerous- and crazy.

4. Singing. Actually, music can help people reducing stress. I used to sing very loud inside my room, only when my parent is going somewhere. If not, humming is good enough to help me. Some of my friend often visit the karaoke room and sing whatever they want. Even it sounds like hell to me, I guess that's how they reduce their stress in a good way.

5. Dance. Dance is a movement of expression. If you're not a good dancer, don't worry. Just do whatever you like, or jump here and there. As long your dance can express your emotion, and you really enjoy it, it will help you to feel better.

6. Sleep. Sleep is a great method to off your brain for a while and recharged your energy back. Sometimes, stress really can suck out all your energy and spirit. So, sleeping can help you to relax and have a nice dream.

7. Watch favorite TV show. For me, whenever I got stress, I watch a lot of TV shows. A lot. And I prefer funny shows so I can laugh like hell. So, my suggestion is, please watch funny TV shows whenever you got stress. I watched Running Man, HIMYM and other funny shows that I got from Youtube before I went to bed.

8. Watch funny movies. Just like number 7, please watch funny movies and get the best funny movies no matter what. TV channel, Youtube, Dailymotion, Veoh, and other online streaming channel is always there for you.

9. Eat. Just eat any foods that makes you relieved. Back to my campus life 3 years ago, I ate double-deck beef burger whenever I got stress. Sometimes, I ate apples. So, just eat whatever foods that come across your stressful mind. You can buy it, or cook it or ask someone to cook or buy it for you.

10. Get shower. Water can help you to feel calm and relax. Besides, it can help to cool your mind too. But I was quite different. Whenever I got stress, I often brush my teeth. I don't know why but it kinda refreshing, hihi...

11. Play games. There's a lot of application in smart phones lately. Get free games only. That's the rule. Pay for one simple game is so hateful (that's my thought and I really mean it.)

12. Last one, enjoy the green scenery of nature. That's the cheapest, easiest, and simplest way to reduce stress. God gives you this lovely nature, not for photographic intention, natural decoration or tourism-purposes only. Mother nature is the mother medicine of living things like us- for our mind, heart and soul. Just enjoy it while you can breathe.

It is not so hard to follow, right?

#tmg2013

Tips: How to get well in Good, Better and Great?

Being as an almost-perfect-person is something that we can't buy. You can never buy it in package. Several people are born with it (so, congratulations for them). Mostly, people relate this term through supplement, cosmetic and the most gruesome-going under knife. Of course, for those who experiencing the grim life and misfortune (I mean, the natural deformity or physical defect that caused a serious psychology) can affect someone's behaviour. I think that I can tolerate with them if they decided to choose a knife rather than a motivation book. Yet, I'm feel a bit disappointed for those (born in great shape), choose to cut the skin and feel so proud with it rather than helping people in need. 

Okay, to get a good look, better look and great look depends on how well you are. The meaning of 'well' is not this- "Well, you know me" or "Well, thank you very much" or "Well, I told you." What the hell? Not that kind. I mean, how well you are facing the situation, your self-bringing or temperament, your inner health, mind and your PR. To be honest, I'm bad in PR and my temperament is also bad. I ate a lot on my bed, I often silence but once talk I talked very fast, I often used flip-flop even I was in an official matter, I have a slight fear of myself that burst out in every second and worse of all, I enjoyed farting. Yes, my behaviour is so bad and one of my unbalancing psychology. So, don't be like me. Be a good one =)

However, every bad feelings about yourself caused by a psychological weakness. So, let's proceed.

The Perspective of Good Look.

Good look is the external presentation to everyone. Eyes play its roles. Eyes need to feed the appetite too. It's difficult for me to talk about fashion, makeover and stuff like that since I'm not the fashionista and mostly I liked boy things (but seriously, I'm a decent girl). So, what am I going to tell you is get a mirror. Then, make a check list about the things that you want to change. I mean, the external temporary change. Please check your overall head-to-toe. Is your hair need some trimming? Is your body need a sand scrub? Is your wardrobe need colors or new stitches? Or maybe you can do some harvesting on your face-your pimples? Once you done the check list, it's time to peep through pages of magazine, or website or everywhere that gives you inspiration. Select the best, humble and nice new style for yourself, which is suitable for your height, your weight, your facial look and skin tone. Good to remember, be an eye-sweet, not an eye-sore. Get some advice from others who knows better. Don't forget to feel good for your new good look.

The Next Transition to a Better Stage.

Better look is the next step outside the door. Once again, eyes play its roles. And again, I'm not the right person to say this (but I have too because I want to babble about it), so it's time to check the alignment of the new good style. Baby, if you have a nice material over your body and all over your head+face, what on earth did you do if you can't sleep off the odd behaviour of yours? Even anonymous often said that 'be yourself', would you dig your nose, scratch your ass, chase and shout people whenever you get annoyed or did every indecent things you always do when you're home? No. It's time to have a better perspective, better view and better spirit. Now, it's time to watch your step. Then, watch the way you greet people, After that, your talk, your body language, your friendliness, your manner, attitude and most important, yourself. Anonymous did say that 'practice makes perfect'. So, do your homework diligently. If you can't find the harmonious part of changing, seek the new one.

The New Form of Great Things and Sustainability.

Great look is not mine. I told you that I'm bad, but I'm also good. Being bad is doesn't mean that I'm bad because I can do good too. But that's not what am I going to talk about. Great look is the parallel between good and better, the alignment that connect each other. Once you made the change of your look- from bad to good, the connection reaches the point of enlightenment where you have to sustain the good look into a better one. Then, the 'practice makes perfect' word mixed the two item inside your head-bowl. The 'baking' situation takes time, of course. But, once the new you bakes perfect, everything is reshape nicely. Okay, it sounds like I'm teaching in a baking class but the things I want to say is everything needs time- a bit of salty sacrifice, a spicy changes, some sour rejection and a sweet satisfaction. All in all, all changes are made by you. You. 

But first, you have to appreciate the best thing in you.

Bullies are Your Red Bull Booster

Childhood is the stage where the crime of life will begin. Nothing comes easy, as the anonymous keep saying, right?  Some called is as "just part of being a kid" but for me, the bullies are "just part of being a little murderer".  So that's how we learned what kind of bullies we have when we were kids. Bullies are the type that will never extincted from this earth. As the world keep growing and and survival is essential, bullies will grow up together with us. No matter where we are. It belongs to us how to resist and accept the mistreated, misunderstood, misplaced and mistakes.

1. What are bullies?

The scene of rough childhood

What a brilliant question (I think you know that already). Bullies are the group (a bunch) of people that scattered your emotion level, your confidence and your routine. There are two kind of bullies; physical abuse or mentally abuse. Sometimes, people got both and that's crazy. Believe me, I've got both of it and I thought that I may lived in the dark- forever. As you can see, two kind of torture are involved between inner and outer. The physical torture is often look painful and wounded, but mental torture is the mainframe to determine how strong the victim is. Cyberbullying, sexting, circulating suggestive, nude photos or message about a person is the example of mental torture.

Stop surpressing me!

2. Characteristic of bullies

Look around you. Bullies are often shiner than others. They got proud face, kinda 'dick'. They looked confidence and less care to others. Bragging is one of their value. They loved to criticize, nothing's good for them. Babbling and cursing (including the laughing package) is the routine. Sometimes, their shadow can be so damnable. The victim might be so stress and scared by hearing their footstep or voices. To conclude the whole thing, bullies are shitty living creature.

3. Characteristic of victims

Once again, look around you. The victims are often darker at the corner. Standing with worries around them. The confidence are really bad. They often screwed up. Crying is worthless to them because they know, no one valued their tears. They are weak and vulnerable. Friends are less. They often keep the feeling inside, trust is the difficult issue. Sometimes, victims choose to become wall, they fight the pain with smile. To conclude everything, the victim is 'Forever Alone' and 'Okay Guy' type.

4. The Result of Bullying and Suicide

To lived as a victim is not easy. Bullies never pity, unless they received bad dreams in midnight (think that in other perspectives). Bullies are the third reason of death among young people according to the CDC. The victims are between 2 or 9 times are more likely consider death than non-victims according to the Yale University. According to the study at Britain, at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying. With the same study, 10 to 14 year-old girls are maybe exposed to the risk of suicide. ABC News reported that 30 percent of bullying victims choose to stay at home because of fear of bullying.

Victims, drink me and
boost up you bravery~

Well, for bullies' happiness, it costs them one death per day.

But, to all victims, why should you pay the cost with your life? There are so many things to do in this world rather than giving up and ended your life. Just run, build your future, strengthen your emotion and face them later. Prove to them that you can make them bowed on your feet for what they have done to your childhood. Doing that is not a crime, not cruel and not a revenge. It shows that the bullies are your Red Bull Booster and the determination for you to choose happiness. So, give a chance to your throat to speak your success, not your bloody death. Remember Pink's song; you're f*ckin' perfect to me~

The Similarities Among Celebrities

Most of celebrities (not all of them) shared the same thing in their life. For example, I begin with few such as Michael Jackson, Lady Gaga, Oprah Winfrey or Christina Aguilera. Everyone knows them (I know~). Yet, they shared few things together, probably that's how they become what and who they are for today.

What are the similarities?

1. They got bullies in early age.
2. They were unpopular kid.
3. They got several conflicts about themselves.
4. They were always got compared to someone's better.
5. They dreamed big.
6. They often feel down.
7. They always hope that good things will happen to them.
8. They often got hurt (physically or mentally)
9. They were used to be a loser.
10. Love was hard when they were young.
11. Road to victory is full of acids to them.
12. Appreciation is the most they loved about.
13. They were very diligent type.
14. They have an awkward taste.
15. They always seek the chance to changed.
16. The 'Forever Alone' type.
17. They were different from those of others.
18. They have a huge passion in work.
19. They want to lead.
20. They want to become a pioneer.

Even Ryan Higa might agreed for what I'm saying. I've got all points at above so, do I become a celebrity in the future?

Who cares~

#tmg2013

The Reason Why You Have To Feel That

Sometimes, we couldn't ignored the feelings why we have to do something we didn't think of. Why we have to cry? Why we have to laugh? Why must we do

the things we didn't like? There's a reason behind this.

1. Cry

Cry is synonym to sad. We cried when we sad. But, ego is the block wall to cover the sadness. Actually, crying can help people to release all strains and a cooling ointment to calm all tenses. Crying is useful to re-wise the person for once again and make a good decision later on. The bad thing that might happen in crying is when you're doing it too much. Every good things can turned bad when you're overdoing it.

2. Smile

Not all people like smiling. These days, most of people frowned a lot especially in working hours and spend most of the day frowning to everything. Smile, it helps to decreased wrinkles and boosted up the confidence level. Smile gives a good appearance and bright attitude on your face which gives people the essence of youth. Besides, you don't have to pay a lot to look young. Just smile.

3. Laugh

Laugh is the medicine of gloomy. Whenever you're in trouble, try to laugh a bit. Laugh and smile shared a similar roles to reduce the stress which caused by a intense environment especially in financial, relationship and other personal matters. Laugh is the positive content that helps to filled the psychological mind that needs a boost to bring it up. Easy, every living thing needs food for energy, so your soul needs laugh to continue the day.

4. Angry

You can't avoid angry. That's a human nature. Angry can't be keep inside yourself for a long time- it's a time bomb. Whenever this feeling popped out, try to handle it wisely by releasing it into a right way. You can punched many times on the sandbag, screamed out loud up on the hill, write a grudge letter and burn it afterwards, or try to get sleep. May your revenge and madness poured out inside your liquid dream. Try it, it maybe work on you. Sometimes, angry is kind of full speed that brought you to the divided road and it belongs to you to choose well.

5. Jealous

Sometimes, you have to get jealous. Even jealous is not a good attitude and it might urged you to do something bad, try to take the jealousy out for a good reason. Make someone's achievement as your reason to get jealous and make it as your motivation for a better future. Sometimes, you have to get jealous or your life will be no change at all.

6. Sick

Every human prayed for a good health, and lived happily without feel sick. But think about this, whenever you get sick and you can't do anything, don't blame yourself or anyone else. Sometimes, the biggest reason why you get sick is because only when you drop into some low level, the enlightenment comes into you and the appreciation to life is priceless. You can't avoid yourself to feel too proud and too extravagant when you're healthy, so there's nothing wrong to get sick. It reminds you that you're just a human being.

So, be grateful to every feelings you have. There are so many reason why you have to feel that.

#tmg2013

How to Weak Yourself?

Normal posts would said about regaining a good health, stay healthy or maintaining the energy. But this post is different. No one talks about destroying your body, in a good manner (not a force suicidal). For those who didn't know how to weak yourself (or my hidden purpose is to reveal the reason why you feel so weak recently, I made that title just to attract you and at the same time I hope that you can fixed your own overall body weakness, haha~). My word here is the mirror, please understand it in opposite way, so, here it is:

[Warnings: this post is not for people who mentally disturbed, a person with psychological problem, children below 12, teenagers who involved in suicide or multiple absence at the school, the frustrated old folks, any humans who easily get fascinated by death and pure dumb people.]

Eat too much

Eating more than your stomach can make you weak easily. The stomach engine work harder than usual to digest large amount of foods to become energy and the rest of it, the collection of filth and fats.

Sleeping beauty

Sleeping is a beauty, to recharge the body and to maintain the youth. However, having a long-long sleep, or overslept makes you weak, especially your back bone, dizziness, sometimes nauseous and the hunger will increase.

Doing nothing

Doing nothing is the best way to weak yourself, the best preparation for death (because you're doing nothing so you're better dead than alive). Doing nothing, or asking people do it for you decreased your energy to a minimum level, causing you to feel lazy, hungry, lack of exercise and finally, you gained weight and become lazier than ever. So well, bumps~

Smoking

Smoke everyday, 10 times per day. Don't exercise, do not eat healthy foods, and don't check yourself at the hospital. There are 4000 chemicals in one cigarette which helps you to weak and die faster than ever. Great, huh?

Oily Kiss

Forget the vegetables, hate all fruits, don't take any vitamin pills or taking care your daily menu. Just eat all oily foods. Fatty foods taste great. It makes you sick, weak and painful, just the way you want it.

Don't walk

People these days hate walking. They even used vehicle to buy groceries which is right in front of their house. Well, as you hate to walk (because you afraid of the sunlight would burn your face and darken your skin), try to stay afloat and do not walk with your feet for a year. Ask anybody at home to move you around. Believe me, you will not have to walk any longer because your feet is weak and ready to paralyze.

Make problems

Problems are everywhere, no one can avoid it but we can overcome it by making plans and find solution. For those who one to weak in faster, don't try to solve your problems. Make it bigger, or get new problems if necessary. When the problems get higher, your stress level will increase too. This way will weaken your body (losing the appetite), get sick (migraine, fever, cough and joint pain) and destroying your positive attitude. Overall, you manage to weak yourself and ready to die.

Don't trust

Trust is a spiritual energy to help you to feel better and healthy. It makes you believe that you can do anything. So, don't trust anybody, anything or anyone. Let the suspicious be with you, and put you on the weakest point in your life. When you don't trust, you don't forgive, you will quit and you lose faith. When everything's lose, you're weak by yourself. No one knows you anymore, not even God.

Avoid prettiness

Get pretty, feel pretty, look pretty and be pretty is the way to have the prettiness. It gives you confidence, high self-esteem and brave. Well, avoid prettiness. Be sloppy, slumpy and sluggish. Being in such a low level and dark side will show you how to feel weak in yourself. Choose inferior, it tastes fear.

Say 'Yes'

Yes means agree, No means argue. Sometimes, it is good to 'yes' than 'no'. Sometimes, it is good to 'no' than 'yes'. No gives you the point of argument, no matter you win or lose you are the one who begin the argument so you seems big and pointy. To feel weak, try to say 'yes' for a year, even they give you shit to eat, you say 'yes' without hesitation. Oh yes~ within a year, you're so-called idiot to kick around (loserr~)

Fights

Last call to weak yourself, get a fight. Try to tease people and fight, even you don't know how to fight at all. If you're lucky, you will lying weakly on hospital bed with wounds and bruises. If you don't, farewell to you forever. May you rest in peace.

So, stay weak tomorrow?

(please don't)

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[Warnings: this post is not for people who mentally disturbed, a person with psychological problem, children below 12, teenagers who involved in suicide or multiple absence at the school, the frustrated old folks, any humans who easily get fascinated by death and pure dumb people.]

#TMG2013

Tips: How to stay ALERT if you're the lazy type to read and update your daily facts?

People normally dozed off a bit when it goes to updating their info or facts of the day. Not everyone is great to stay alert about everything. Sometimes they know, sometimes they didn't. But people surely not enjoy to ask questions. However, it feels awkward to stand without knowing the news, especially if you're reluctant to read. So, for those sloppy readers who wants to stay update among your circle but reading is not your cup, try this:

• Read the headline of the news. Even you didn't get the whole crap of the story, at least you know a bit like "Three were killed in accident". Now you understand that three people had died in accident, right?

• Use the power of listening when you buy groceries at the mall, having a pedestrian walk, window shopping or whenever you're at the outside. You don't have to ask people to tell you the story, they will indirectly feed you the news. All you have to do is listen.

• Train yourself to become ventriloquist. Use the talent of asking without moving your lips when you got left behind in your group circle.

• Follow the flow. Take a piece of the story from everyone. Now, you have a different kind of story-version and thumb's up to get into the conversation.

• Don't laughed whenever you want. That will makes you look so damn-awkward in front of others. Observe the facial expression quietly.

• Wide your eyes. There are so many information around you and to help you a bit in updating your knowledge of the day.

• Hang around with talkative buddies. They will give you a lot of stories...a lot, more than you can imagine~

• Make a good guess while in conversation. Good guess will help you to catch up the subject better and quickly.

• Or, try to make a wrong guess. Your friends will correct you and give you the right facts. Then, they might add up more stories and Yahtzee!-- now you got the other news without subscribing the channel.

• If you like, try to attend a group discussion. Not only you can get info about your work, you might get more individual stories from strong-will gossipers, creative chatters, annoying 'corrector' or trustworthy news feeder.

• Sometimes, people's argument will enrich your knowledge. So, try to stay up and watch.

p/s: for those sloppy readers who read this, congratulations~ now, you're no longer sloppy. You read this, and you alert =)

#TMG2012

Leaders who tend to abuse: Why?

Leaders are the selected people to lead a group or association. They were the chosen one to plan, to decide and to stand up to all difficulties. However, back to the old times, there were so many barbaric leaders who enjoyed the bloody flesh, torturing, abusing and laughing to all kind of evil acts, treating those works as their hobby or the finest artwork. However, most of them (those sickening and mental leaders) were experienced the spiteful, bored, plain or depressing childhood. The painful memories while growing up had shaping their mind and influencing their decision making, to become the leaders who tend to abuse. Why? Actually, every people who grew up with too much of painful environment will be hurt so much that they couldn't accept their past, become so aggressive to any disagreement, always thinking of revenge, killing themselves or the worst of all, to attempt a murder. 

This is the list of example of leaders who experienced "the untold childhood".

Adolf Hitler (Nazi)

Hitler had a rough childhood who dreamed to become a painter. He had a strong will father who opposed his dream to become an artist. The death of his younger brother, Edmund deeply affected his mind and emotion.  Later, he was rejected by the Academy of Fine Arts Vienna because of his unfitness for painting or the truth was, he can't draw the face of human clearly and most of his painting had a blurring human face. He even got rejected in architecture study. After the second rejection, Hitler become so poor and lived at the homeless shelter. He was an antisemitism (which caused the gruesome legacy of the 'Holocaust') because of overrun immigrants of eastern Jew might seize his chance for foods and job, knew that his father's forefather is Jew and facing a hard time to accept his dream had blown away. That was how he began to dream to involved in a war and become a hero, a small piece of desire being 'someone important' and he was too hungered for world-attention.

Joseph Stalin (Stalinism)

Stalin had received some several cases of minor low self-esteem such as, having a permanent scar because of smallpox that happened when he was a kid, permanent left-arm damage in two horses carriage accident when he was twelve and unfit feeling with the imperialist and religious order, which caused him to rebel the scholarship from Georgian Orthodox seminary. He even got expelled, missing his final exam and the seminary record suggest that he was unable to pay his tuition fees (and few things that against the regulation). He had a fragile mind which caused him easily been influenced by Vladimir Lenin writings, joined the association and got mark by Tsar secret police. After involved in police cases, he began to work wild by doing extortion, ransom kidnapping, raising money from bank robberies, spreading propaganda and become the full time revolutionary. Then, the calling for the World War I took his interest to become an army but failed because of his left-arm damage, which make him indirectly feel offense. Later, he determined to be part of political world, as the best way to get involved in war and gained the attention.

Genghis Khan (Mongol Empire)

Genghis was born as Temujin, and his early life was difficult. He was sent to his future wife (the other tribe) at the age of nine and lived separately from his family. He had to bear a responsible in a very young age, and waiting to get an official marriage at the age of 12. Later, he got news about his father's death, poisoned by their old enemy of Tatars, and he can't accept the losing at first. Then, he returned to claim his father position but got rejected, which caused him the second frustration after losing his father. After his father's death, they faced a rough life without a protection. He even killed his half brother because of the hunting spoil,  scrambled for foods to live which caused him captured and held prisoner by his father former allies. He was being enslaved for several moment, before he got a help by a sympathetic guard and run away. Genghis grew up in a tough political stage, weather climate that caused the real starvation, received the interference forces by enemies and crime in his own land. Those pressures had put him to get into war with other land, looking for sources to live and kill for huge necessities..

Pol Pot (Khmer Rouge)

Pot, or Saloth Sar was born in a small fishing village and his father was a rice farmer, considered to be moderately wealthy at that time. He had a fair skin complexion, he had a good family, his cousin was part of Royal Ballet, his sister was a concubine for King Monivong and he gained a good scholarship which brought him to study at the foreign country, France. However, there were slightly parts in his life that makes him tried too much to change it. First, his fair complexion might be the problem, he might be dislike it. Second, his sister was concubine for a king, maybe he didn't like to accept that fact. Third, he received a good scholarship but the study didn't went so well. His academic record was so poor, he failed in exams, got rejected and sent back to Cambodia. While studying, he got attracted by anti-colonialism idea, revolution party and guerrilla stuff which he thought that might be the stage for him to shine, being great and doing better than studying radio electronics. Later, he got addicted about hating Westerners, religious groups and intellectual people who against his ideas.

Ivan IV- The Terrible (Tsar of All the Russias)

Ivan was born in a great environment. He was Grand Prince of Moscow, born with intelligent brain, an able diplomat, a patron of trade and arts, the founder of Russia's first Print Yard, changing his country to become a multiethnic, medieval state to empire and had a long reign. However, he had a very complex personality; he killed his groomer and his son, paranoiac suspiciousness, and cruel persecution of the nobility. He had a serious business by beat his daughter in law for wearing immodest clothing and makes her miscarriage and even fought with his son about the miscarriage things which killed his son, Ivan Ivanovich, the chosen heir. However, back to his childhood, he was left by his father who died from a boil and inflammation on his leg. Request by his father as to make him the Grand Prince, his mother acted as a regent but got assassinated by poison. He and his brother, Yuri had been neglected and abandoned by his father and mother's families in a very young age which leads him to lived and grew up in suspicious, worrying, terrifying with other people, and revenge. His spiteful manner become worse when his first wife, Anastasia Romanovna got poisoned which deeply affected him and betrayed by his advisor which caused the devastation of Russia region (he got more suspicious and paranoid about trusting people).

Mao Tse-Tung/Mao Zedong (Communist Party)

Mao had a difficult life when he was a young boy. He had a stern disciplinary father which was largely irreligious, often got beaten by his father, and lived in poverty. He was believe in Buddha at first but abandoned his faith in his mid teenage years. He was forced to learn Confucius moral ideologies by his father and even tried to run but always found by his father. At the age of 13, he was forced to married a girl who four years older than him, Luo Yixiu to unite their land owning families, which against his will and he refused to accept her as his wife. He learned about political ideologies secretly, influenced a lot by the local and foreign books about remodeling the nation and got inspired. Later, he convinced his father to allow him to attend middle school at Changsha. However, his father opposed his intellectual pursuits, and cut off his expenses which makes him move away and leave his family. Most of his life was controlled and monitored by his father, and most of his life was been decided by his father's decision, that leads him to rebel, to seek his passion and dreams, and at the same time his father's stern disciplinary attitude becomes part of his behaviour too.

Vlad Dracul 'Dracula' the Impaler/Vlad Tepes (Prince of Wallachia)

Vlad Dracula, the notorious blood-thirsty ruthless and deranged prince from Hungary was born in a very religious Christianity who believed in God and his father was a member of the Order of the Dragon who protect Christianity in eastern Europe. He hated the Ottoman Empire very much because of the Ottoman conquest at Balkans. He was grew up to hate Islam, Ottoman and inspired by his father's struggle to secure the Christianity and also the Order of the Dragon. He had lived and educated well by his father until his life began to change when his father being ascended the throne of Wallachia and ousted by rival faction at Hungary. His father was secured by Ottoman support (he hates Ottoman, anyways), enraged silently when his father had to pay jizya (non-Muslim taxes to Sultan), sent by his father to Ottoman court as the hostages of the loyalty, his brother, Radu converted to Islam and joining Mehmed II. Later on, Radu being honoured by Ottoman Turks and Mehmed II become the Sultan. Vlad becomes too much ill in his mind when he knew that his father had betrayed the Oath of the Dragon, at the same time he had betrayed their religion, distrusting the Hungarians, envious by his brother's achievement (Radu becomes his father's preference) and hates to lived in Ottoman circle and the Islam community, which leads him to become wild, spiteful and completely insane.

Hirohito the Emperor Showa (Taisho Monarch/Showa Era)

Hirohito was a Japanese Prince for Taisho Monarch and lived in a very pleasant life. He had a good education, great family status, wealth and comfort. Grow up in such a plain and protocol life brought him a lot of responsibility and lived to expect the expectation. The responsibility and the expectation as the prince becomes higher when his father being affected by mental illness. Under his regency, there were several events occurred; receiving the agreement to terminate the Anglo-Japanese Alliance, devastated by the Great Kanto earthquakes, someone tried to assassinate him but failed and received the reign in financial crisis background. Feel pressure by those forces, he began to dreamed about the modern country of Japan, the great Asian country in Asia, and inspired by the other big countries resourcefulness in technology, weaponry and financial. With those ambitions and pressures surrounded him, he agreed the invasion of China, and involvement in World War II.

Ref: Wikipedia, Discovery, Google Images

#TMG2012

Hey, Single...watch your Double~

Being single is one of my kind for a very long time, living in my single-dom world and enjoying stuffs like single people would do; stay a lot at home, eat alone, hang out with friends and families, no worries about phone calls or something like that and the best part is, freedom. For so many years, I've been surrounded by doubles...I mean, my friends in relationship, and I've been watching them, the way they behave and talk, absolutely. And for all these years, I had enjoyed on the audience's seat, with my imaginary pop corn and watch this double-ship show quietly.

13 year-old was the earliest involvement in double-ship among my friends and some of them got pretty serious when they're in 17-19, whereas I was still playing legos or poker,  wipe my mucous with my shirt and stuffing foods inside my mouth like a bulldozer (I had problems to act like a decent girl in my age). I think that's my psychological disease of seeking my childhood who left me in the dark (don't mention it). No offense, but, being double is not so easy. They called it 'young age is somehow, a stupid stage to learn the truth being double'. Even I have so-so and so little facts about double-ship things but as far as I can remember, there's something that they often did during my observation such as:

1. Couples often made calls and texting over the night, to say how much they love each other but to be honest, they were worried about bills or topup they should pay to sustain the relationship.
2. Couples often invite their double for brunch, dinner and shopping but they can't stop thinking whether this investment for double-ship is worthy or not.
3. Couples often say that 'long distance double-ship' is testing their patience and love, they often fight like hell over the phone call (jealousy activated).
4. Couples often say that 'short distance double-ship' is good to sustain their heart better, but they had problems to trust each other.
5. Couples often say that 'being double is happy' but they often shed tears more than smiling.
6. Couples often tell everyone they feel grateful being in double-ship, but seriously, they can't stop grumbling at the back, even they loved each other but still...grumbling.
7. Couples often did something similar but they often feel like there's a small battle between them.
8. Couples often go for movies but one side often feels terrible with the story line, but couldn't say a word because they loved each other (true story)
9. Couples often refuse to listen somebody's advice because they always thought they're right but when something happens, they couldn't admit the truth and swallowed their pride in pain.
10. Couples always missing each other but when they meet up, they often questioning more than nice chatting.
11. Couples often say 'YES' but deep in their heart, there's 'NO' that couldn't come out (just buried between those layered of sugar-coated words).
12. Couples often say that 'long double-ship' helps them to know each other better and greater, but they often complaint about each weaknesses they've learned in each passing days.
13. Couples often say that 'short double-ship' helps them to learn to understand each other, but they often surprised what is waiting upon them (so, keep surprise~)
14. Couples often give advises to those who single, but the truth is-- all advises are for them, to remind themselves.
15. Couples often dreaming about marriage (serious couple only) but money issues are much bigger than missing their love one.
16. Couples like to brag about their double-ship but often silence like a dead wood when they've broke up.
17. Couples love sharing everything but not all couples are ready or willing to share their biggest secret.
18. Couples always praised their love one but the truth is, after a certain years they will start comparing their double-ship to the other double-ship (which ship is better?)
19. Couples like to share their story with others but they couldn't bear to hear anything in the past when they broke up.
20. Couples knew that being double-ship is all about loyalty but some of it still joining 'the hunting-trip'. To put it simple, 'you got cheated'.
21. Couples always say that marriage is the victory of their love but they often slipped the victory after they got the legal paper.
22. Couples often changed even they can't admit they're already changed.
23. Couples willing to do everything but some of them asking for some return (y u no the news of baby on the street is so cranky these days~)
24. Couples often vowed for their love, but some of it might be blown away in a matter of time (I don't know about this but somehow, it happens a lot---my friend experienced this)
25. At this point, those couples (who read this) will reminisce the old ships who left by when they were young, so I will stop the list at here...et cetera, et cetera~

As a single person, sitting at the corner of love-hate things that happened out of my control, sweet and sour of faces I saw every time I took a slightly glance, and for whispers and shouts I have to bear as an audience of love battlefield. For those passing years I had submerged into these courses, between all doubles I couldn't speak or advice, nor listen to what I want to say, being double means "double activated" and the conversation was often slides from the subject. So yes, I did put them away (not so far, but away from my single business) because being single like mine is a "vertigo"; hating handcuffs, freedom surfing, jolly flapping, undisturbed decision or D.I.Y jumping jack to have something with my own skins and fingers (if you know what I mean).

All in all, watching doubles in double-ship is not something so bad, I've learned something (I do valued the hardworking people who contributed my knowledge), the good things and mistakes that should not be done by single-ship. Well, Single..watch your Double out there.  That's the fundamental of understanding the body language and mind-working.

"For single, being single is a lesson of life...for double, being double is a person of life"

#TMG2012