Friends, it took some time to call people surround you as friends and years to made them as your bestie. But sometimes, not all friendship last forever, or I meant to say that not last longer than you thought. It often happens as they get engaged, married, having kids, living far and they didn't make a contact with you but they can have time with your other friends. What does it mean? What did they do to you? Is that mean that they're ready to leave you behind and move forward but you still hoping that they will meet you sometime like you used to? Actually, it happens to me and it kinda hurt so I decided to endure my feeling with my own way 'cause I know it doesn't worth for me to waste myself with that kind of thinking.
- First, try to made up your mind telling yourself that your past life is your past tense. When they made you as their past life, you should made them pass over you too. Don't hold them and believe that they still wanting you as their bestie. With years that involved between you and them, they might found one better than you. So, I let them go, make new friends and create new history. Let your past passed away.
- Second, always remind yourself to have self-respect with your face. Don't keep calling or texting them, asking them to have a reunion with you. It won't change anything. Think of it like in boy-girl relationship, when one side had refused to see you, you have to accept. Don't treat yourself like a sniffing dog. Have a dignity. It's time to leave them behind like they did to you too.
- Third, try to keep telling yourself that do not try to interfere what kind of business they were involved. Don't try to show your face when they already forgot your face. It might ended with something shameful as you try to say hi to them but they just have a quiet smile and tell you that they can't remember your name. It is really sad.
- Fourth, have courage to delete their phone number so you won't interrupt their life again. As long that numbers still inside your phone number lists, you might calling or texting them again and again but they didn't reply a bit of it. Or probably they already changed their number.
- Fifth, if sometimes you really missed them but you know you can't bring back the old life into these days, have a neat and nice look at something they gave to you- a birthday present. What's the point to resist and throw it away? That's yours now. Don't be such a wasteful person.
- Sixth, try not to peek and sneak into their Facebook account too often. It might hurt you how well they did in their life without you as one of their comrades, and they might know about is (so they called you as 'the desperado'--you want that name?)
- Seventh, don't hate them. Always not hating them. More you hate, more you keep remember them. Let them go out from your life like softly breeze.
- Eighth, made new friends with new attitude. Same attitude in treating friends make you remind about your past friendship. And try not to compare your past and your present. Time, it changed the whole globe of the round shape called 'the earth'. Of course it will change everything around you.
- Ninth, if they invite you for their special occasion, go for it with manner. Don't try to pick up old stories which might hurt you when you realised they are not same like they used to. Come on, everybody's changing. Including you, me and them. Be acceptable.
- Tenth, don't hold old promises into these days. Promises were made to be broken- the truth. They won't remember the things that they had said to you or something they want to share it you. Sometimes, it's good to have a slight amnesia. Reminding yourself with such promises will hurt your pride when you noticed that they were the one who leave you first.
- Eleventh, learn from your history. You and them were not meant to be friendship forever. Be as the acquaintance is not so bad. And mind yourself...friendship forever can be friendship for-over.
p/s: It also applicable in love relationship. Try to suit it up according to your situation =D
MaGi2012
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